The Challenge: Daily Choices, 40 Days
In The Confidence Class, we are purpose-driven and (compassionately) hold ourselves and each other accountable.
The purpose of this challenge is to build a crew of women who are all working toward one common goal: to build self-respect through committed, daily actions. The Confidence Class intends to 1. make this challenge attainable for *everyone* who joins and 2. help everyone to complete 40 full days.
On that note, first, choose 3 (out of 6) of the following options. You may choose a different 3 each day! Structured flexibility is important for us to not just “throw in the towel” when the challenge feels hard!
Each *night* of your 40 days, before going to bed, choose which 3 you’re practicing the following day. Write them down somewhere you can see them—on your bedroom door, on your fridge, in your planner, etc. (But, ideally, not in your phone.)
This way, when you wake up, you don’t have to rush and remember what to do; you already prepared the night before and are ready to make it happen.
By signing up, you may receive some email or text communications. Accountability: CHECK!
Again, these are *daily* choices - choose 3 of these EACH night, to practice the following day. Note: choose the options that are both realistic for you, and genuinely resonate with you and your desires for a healthier life.
•Create a “phone home.” Place your phone in its prededicated spot a minimum of 30 minutes before bed. Leave it outside of your bedroom until at least 30 minutes AFTER you wake up.
-This option is great for those of us who spend hours “scrolling”, and then feel bad about it.
*Focus: Build self-respect by choosing to do healthier things with our time. Think about it: if you know you’re going to feel bad about yourself after 2 hours of random scrolling, looking at other people’s “highlight reels”, then why do it? That’s an act of disrespect to the Self. Let’s change that.
•No speaking negatively/spreading gossip about anyone. (Yourself, included.)
-This option is great for those of us who spend a lot of our time focusing on other people’s lives/actions—what THEY are doing, what THEY have, what envy/jealousy we feel toward them.
*Focus: Build self-respect by having gratitude for what we do have; let go of self-righteous behavior; discontinue using gossip/negative speech as a bonding tool; choose better, choose kinder.
•Giving ourselves whatever amount of sleep we know we NEED.
-This option is great for those of us who could go to bed earlier than we typically do, but don’t—those of us who notice that we’re staying up late spending hours watching TV/on social media/etc. and then regret it in the morning. If you have a newborn baby/any children, this option may not be best for you, because it may not be realistic with your necessary sleep schedule! (Be sure to be realistic when choosing this option, because if you can’t follow through on it, that’s not going to build up your self-respect.)
•Only say kind things about yourself whenever you look in the mirror.
-This option is great for those of us who struggle with negative opinions of ourselves and negative self-talk.
*Focus: You’re the only person you’ll spend your whole life being, and the only person you’ll spend your whole life with. To build a kind inner-dialogue is KEY to strengthening your relationship with yourself. And there is no relationship in your LIFE that matters more than the one you have... with yourself.
•Whatever you choose to eat, choose to consume it without guilt and without calling it “bad.”
-This option is great for those of us who historically struggle with our relationship to food, using descriptors like “guilt-free”, “bad”, “guilty”, to describe what we consume.
*Focus: Either eat it, or dont—but let’s be DONE with making ourselves feel bad for it. That’s disrespect to the Self. And if you know you’re not yet at a place where you can eat something and NOT feel “bad” about it after, this is a wonderful new habit to build! Let’s start it.
•Daily words of gratitude for our PASTS.
-This option is great for those of us who grapple with regret and judge ourselves unfavorably for past choices/experiences.
*Focus: Time to LET GO of wishing things had been/were different! They weren’t/aren’t. The healthy choice is to “make peace with our pasts” with affirmations like: “I forgive myself. I learned so much. I am grateful for how that experience built me. I became who I am. It’s not a mistake because I learned from it.” How futile it would be to wish for anything other than what is. Let’s practice acceptance—of our mistakes, choices, challenges... ourselves. Everything happened as it should have. We are where we are meant to be. Yes we can grow, yes we can aim higher and change direction—but first let’s forego regret and start to accept.
Except... Not the kind you eat.